If you elect to resolve your partnership breakdown by the collaborative law process then this will involve both you and your partner. The collaborative family law resolution process cannot work without the participation and co-operation of both you and your partner. Adopting a co-operative approach will be critical to a successful outcome. Both you and your partner will each have a lawyer. They will work with you to resolve your dispute but remember this, above all, goodwill and a determination to resolve issues in a fair way for the benefit […]
You’ve decided that your relationship is over. A hard decision to make but sometimes hard decisions just have to be made, for your sake and the sake of your children. How are you going to survive after the breakup? You or your partner might be struggling financially after the breakup and find it difficult to support themselves. After all your household might have gone from two incomes down to one or it might be the case that the only income in the household has left with your partner. If this […]
Are the signs there? Are the little things that you once held to be important in your relationship missing? The warmth – the affection – the closeness. Do you question why you are still there? Most couples in a relationship would be less than honest if they did not admit that from time to time they were concerned about the future of their relationship, even if only for a moment or two. Relationships fail for lots of reasons but ending a relationship can be difficult – emotionally and financially. Some […]
If you are going through a matrimonial or partnership split – then do yourself a favour!! Sit down and calmly try to think through the process, that is the process relating to how you deal with your emotional and financial needs not only for yourself but also for your children. Set out rules which you want to stick by – rules that will leave you in control and allow you to take the high moral ground. We know you’re hurting but try to put that aside for the moment. Your […]
So finally it’s all over. It’s time to move on and start the next chapter of your life. You’ve got your divorce or you agreed and finalised terms with your partner through the collaborative process. You would like to move closer to friends and family because the move would give you a support network which might not be available to you at the moment. You know it’s going to be better for the children, a chance for a new start for all of you and new opportunities. Perhaps even more […]
All the gut wrenching is over – you’ve made the decision to separate or maybe the decision was made for you. But before you enter into the minefield of Family Law and the warm and tender embrace of your lawyer, just stop and think about the kind of separation you would prefer. It’s probably not where you are now because you’re feeling anger, even hatred for your partner. Calm down and think about this – anger and hatred are such wasted emotions in terms of time and energy. You can put […]
Choosing a family lawyer is one of the most important decisions to be made in the event of a breakdown in your relationship. Making the wrong choice can make or break any desire you have for a low cost amicable process. Whether it’s about property or parenting or both, you need to be sure that the family lawyer you choose will give you sensible accurate advice; after all, this is about you and your partner and most importantly your children, if you have them. Your lawyer has no personal interest […]
Client Story – Trying to Go the Collaborative Route (We’ll call this client Mandy, to protect her identity) In 2006 I finally asked my husband of 23 years for a divorce. Earlier in 1995 we had separated physically and financially with orders as to a property settlement being filed in the Family Law Court. As a woman, this gave me a sense of security knowing that I finally had something of my own and I could get on with my life and raise our three young children. As parents, we […]
A relationship break-up is difficult at the best of times. If you find yourself in this unfortunate position then remember that there are probably 3 important things for you to keep uppermost in your thoughts. First, there is your well-being. Without a sensible approach to maintaining your health and mental balance, you cannot help those who are also impacted by the break-up. Second, there will be your children. You must remain strong and you must always be certain that what you are doing will bring the best outcome for them […]
You’ve met your soul mate and your new relationship is under way. It’s time to take the next step and move in together. It could be that you’ve reached the other extreme – sad as it is, your relationship has ended. You and you partner can enter into a Financial Agreement to set out clearly what you each want from your new relationship so that if it all doesn’t end happily ever after you each have a clearly defined path when dealing with your financial assets. You can also enter […]
