End the Conflict, Peacefully
Right at this moment you are hurting. Hurting badly. It’s time to end the conflict and dissolve your relationship peacefully.
You never thought it would happen to you. No one sets out to have a relationship fail. Unlike Hollywood and the always forever happy endings, the honest fact is that relationships do fail and for a variety of reasons.
It doesn’t matter how long you and your partner have been in a relationship – the hurt will still be there.
Your mind is racing. Am I ready to end the relationship? What about the kids? How will we cope together? Will we as a family be okay financially? How do I start the process? How do I tell everyone? And the list goes on – you’re probably in a mess right now.
None of us likes to fail. Perhaps the hardest part of all of this is that you will have to tell your family and friends that your relationship is over. This in itself an admission of failure.
So what’s next?
Before you enter into the minefield of Family Law and the embrace of your lawyer – stop and just think about where you want to be.
You might be feeling anger, even hatred for your partner. Just reflect on this – anger and hatred are such wasted emotions in terms of time and energy. You can put this energy to better use, like improving your financial position and the well-being of your children.
You are hurt, and your emotions are probably out of control. Try and stop, approach the issues that confront you in a calm and considered manner.
Thankfully, not every relationship breakdown is fuelled by emotion. In some instances, partners end their relationship on good terms. You and your partner may have a considered a sensible approach to the splitting of the joint assets and the care and well-being of the children.
That should be your aim so put the hurt and disappointment to one side. We know that this will be hard, but you must try to end the conflict, peacefully.
You need to maximise the assets you will walk away from the relationship with because you need to think about the future. Spending money on legal and other fees without the prospect of a practical result is not a good strategy. After all, every penny you save is there for you, your children and your future.
So before you embark on the expensive legal strategy of trench warfare just consider for the moment whether there just might be another, less expensive, more caring option.
Collaborative Practice enables both of you to discuss options, share and communicate in a non-judgemental environment.
Empower yourself to work towards a positive resolution in a realistic timeframe.
Collaborative Practice leaves you ready to face the future. This approach is not suitable for everyone but do yourself a favour and think about your choice.
It just might make the difference between having more or less money. It may end the conflict and give you a more meaningful and fulfilling on-going relationship with your former partner. Your choice is in the best interests of the children.
After all, getting the best outcome for you and your kids is what matters to all involved.
